Woman excluding co-worker from sharing group lunch has internet torn

A woman who excluded her colleague from a group lunch has sparked an online debate.

Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman with the anonymous username u/VioletPilot97 shared her story to receive feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 7,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) began his story by explaining that his boss recently bought the entire McDonald’s office. She writes that most of her colleagues are vegetarians, so their options were limited. However, her colleague, “Amy”, took all the available chicken nuggets and started eating them at her desk.

When the OP walked past Amy’s desk, she kindly asked if she could have one – like other colleagues – only to have her yell “NO!” on them.

Above, two colleagues have an argument. On Reddit’s popular r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman who kicked her colleague out of a group lunch has been tearing up the internet.
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The OP explained where the conflict started. “Earlier today I decided to order from this nearby Chinese restaurant. We were less crowded on office day, so I asked everyone except Amy if they wanted anything. We all contributed and ended up ordering a big lunch for ourselves. The food arrives, we sit around a table to eat. Amy notices this and comes around, chatting.

“As soon as she grabs a plate and tries to serve, I tell her she can’t have the food because we all ordered it for ourselves. Amy looks at me in disbelief. I shrug. Amy snaps the plate on the table and storms. She ate alone later and didn’t say much to anyone all day. My colleagues are split on this. Half of them say she had planned it. The other claims I was a little too harsh to exclude and embarrass her,” she continued.

Newsweek contacted u/VioletPilot97 for comment.

Newsweek published several articles about workplace disputes, including a woman who was backed for reporting her colleague who searched her purse, a father slammed online after forcing his son to stay at work and missing the birth of his first child and a woman who has been criticized for delaying her husband’s plans to return to work for another year.

How to manage a conflict between you and a colleague?

Learning to manage workplace conflict can increase productivity and make work fun, according to Indeed. The job search and counseling website has shared ways to handle conflict between you and your co-worker:

  • Keep the conflict between you and the colleague. Do not discuss it with other colleagues.
  • Discuss the situation with your colleague face to face and speak in a calm voice.
  • Listen to their point of view and understand where they are coming from.
  • Know when to involve other people, including human resources or a supervisor.

Editors’ reactions

“[Not the a**hole] Regardless of the McDonald’s incident the fact is they didn’t pay for it each of you paid for your own meal and that’s no different than bringing lunch and putting it in the fridge only for a colleague to take it without permission. been nice to offer? Of course, but no one was forced to share their lunch with a glutton,” u/zadidoll wrote, receiving the top comment of over 10,000 upvotes.

U/Bitbatgaming said: “[Not the a**hole]. She is a huge d**k here. Notice how your boss ordered McDonalds for the whole office, not just her. She is greedy refusing to share, in addition to her rude manner when you kindly asked if you could eat one.”

“[Everyone sucks here], you all seem incredibly immature. She was super weird about chicken nuggets, and you played a Mean Girls-style tit-for-tat. Do yourself a favor and start behaving professionally towards your co-workers, even if they’re a little weird – in fact, especially if they’re a little weird,” u/hamsandwichandcrisps explained.

“Your co-worker’s actions regarding chicken nuggets were selfish and immature. You did a good job mimicking her behavior in return. You don’t get any points for falling to her level. She didn’t earn your respect, but neither did she deserve your contempt. [Everyone sucks here]“, commented u/SamW20910.

Jennifer C. Burleigh