Building resident backed for arresting ‘irritated’ mother in elevator spat

Members of a popular internet forum supported an aggrieved woman who ultimately stood up to the self-proclaimed authority of their building’s elevators.

In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/narniais4lovers (otherwise known as the original poster, or OP) said his neighbor, a mother of seven, had long used her children to justify her behavior. impetuous. and revealed how a tiring day at work made her stop that cheekiness in its tracks.

Entitled, “[Am I the a**hole] for not taking the next elevator when a mother of 7 asked me to?” Publish received nearly 16,000 upvotes and 1,500 comments in the past day.

Beginning with the explanation that her neighbor’s children are all under the age of 9, OP said she saw the woman force other residents, including her elderly father, out of the elevators to take them away herself. same.

OP also said she recently met the mother of seven on a public bus and decided there would be no better opportunity to take a stand.

“I was on my way home from work…and she was on the bus with everyone [the] kids,” OP wrote. “They were screaming and running down the aisle; essentially making such a scene that the driver asked her to sit the kids down before they got hurt.

“I was the first in the building and I pressed the button for the elevator. She came in with her double stroller and her gang of children…[and] told me I had to go out and wait for the next one,” OP continued. “I refused, saying I would make myself as small as possible, but I stayed in the elevator.

“She got mad, pointed at her kids and said ‘do you see what I’m dealing with here?!’ She took out her stroller and her kids, calling me a dick the whole time.”

Whether on a train, bus, or other form of public transportation, parents with young children are expected to be accommodated.

And in many cases, commuters are happy to oblige.

However, there is a point where the wait for accommodation could border on exploitation, especially outside the realm of transport.

Last year, The New York Times examined the impact of the pandemic and global shutdowns on working parents, as well as their childless counterparts.

Although it was reported that some employers, such as software company Salesforce, were offering parents additional benefits, including extra paid time off, a number of childless employees felt their efforts had been put in jeopardy. side and their needs largely ignored, according to the publication.

But this phenomenon is not exclusive to companies either.

On the internet, and on Reddit in particular, complaints about parents’ expectations of preferential treatment are regularly posted.

These complaints are often echoed and amplified, gaining traction as childless users become aware of the imbalanced power dynamic between them and those with children.

Above, hands opening the elevator doors. Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum have defended a resident of an apartment building who refused to give up an elevator to an “angry” mother and her seven children.
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Throughout the comments section of the viral Reddit post, this realization was on full display, with many Redditors showing their support for OP’s decision to hold on, even in the face of an “irritated” mother and her seven, out of control kids.

“[Not the a**hole]“, commented Redditor u/SeasonMystic, receiving over 4,500 upvotes.

“I’m so sick of parents having rights,” they continued. “Just because you are breeding does NOT mean you are entitled to special treatment.”

“She stinks of entitlement and I sure hope these kids don’t grow up to be like her,” added Redditor u/IDKguessthisworks. “She really needs someone to tell her that she can’t always get a pass because she [has] 7 young children.”

Redditor u/Blake_Raven, whose comment received nearly 2,000 upvotes, offered a similar response.

“She made the choice to have children,” they wrote. “More than that, she made the choice to have seven.”

“If she makes that choice, too bad if it’s hard, but that’s what she chose,” they added.

In the post’s most prominent comment, which received nearly 19,000 upvotes, Redditor u/StAlvis remained focused on the neighbor’s “herd” of kids.

“[Seven] children and they are all under the age of 9,” they wrote. “There’s no way I’ll need to read any more.

“[Not the a**hole]“, they added.

Newsweek contacted u/narniais4lovers for comment.

Jennifer C. Burleigh